and how to keep friends:
Don’t let conversations just be all about YOU; ask them how they’re doing, what’s going on with them. Be genuinely INTERESTED in what the other person has to say.
Don’t force yourself on people; if they don’t want to hang out or be social, then leave them alone. We’re all the same, but very different at the same time. Maybe when they’re ready, they will come to you when you least expect it.
Don’t be rude and cut in on someone else’s conversation. Don’t interrupt.
Don’t act like you know it all or you’re perfect, because you don’t and you aren’t. No one ever really “knows it all” and no one’s perfect. We are always learning whether it’s from other people, experiences, etc.
To me, this one is very important: learn how to read people and their body language; are they giving you a laugh or a smile that seems forced or fake? Do they genuinely enjoy chatting with you, or do they want to be left alone? You don’t have to be an expert on reading people, but knowing a little goes a long way and will help you “see” who’s who; who you should associate yourself with and who you should stay away from.
Be a good worker. You don’t have to be the model employee, but don’t be a slacker. I can’t stand a person who’s just “collecting a paycheck” and crusing along, or people who unknowingly pass their work off to others without any consideration for the other person who has to pick up after them.
Be an honest & genuine person. Don’t pretend to be something you’re not because someone will see right through you.
Don’t give excuses. Your friends & co-workers will tire of you eventually because of your “excuses”.
Why am I saying all of this? There is an overall lack of respect, consideration, awareness and common sense with people these days. You don’t want to be an asshole or a bitch, but if you are more aware & conscious than the zombies you interact with on a daily basis, it is your duty to wake them up and put some awareness into their minds.
This is not the official list by the way, I have more to add when I think of them.